Hole

  Let’s imagine when we are born we all start at zero or a flat line.   As we grow, learn different things & our parents pour into us life giving lessons that will make us into the adults we are today.  That would be an upper-ward climb on the hill of life & who we are or zero starts becoming positive growing numbers.   

  Sometimes we don’t get what we need at different stages in life & that would make a deposit in the negative or make a hole in us.   Life comes with different problems for us to face & that can make more of a hole in us or help us climb the hill of life.  

  If you are taught to give & not receive or to put others first & not to tend to yourself, that could add to the negative or the hole.  If you have relationships that you are life giving & not receiving life back, that feeds the negative/hole.  How can we stop feeding the negative, stop digging the hole?

   Some of us don’t realize we are standing in the negative or a hole, because that is where you have been all your life.  Some may see their in the hole but don’t know how to get out.  It can feel like waves crashing on us repeatedly  & you can not get  firm footing to stand to move.

  If you are in a hole & want out, contact me,  I can help point you out of the hole.  

Offense

  This post will not have a beautiful picture of nature.   This post is addressing the pattern that has happened since Religion has began.   
  You read your Bible, go to church, have your Bible Study groups & volunteer your time at a soup kitchen, food pantry or thrift shop.  You may even have the desire to go out into the community or other places in the world to spread the knowledge of who God is.    Okay, stop right there.   All that stuff is wonderful, not knocking any of those actions there.   None of it is wrong.   But if you go out into the community or the world to spread God’s word or get others to turn from their wicked ways & come to the good side, then look at them & be offend of what they do, say or believe, just stop.  Go back home & read up on how Jesus interacted with people.  Jesus did not look down on the people.  He came for them to know His Father & His Fathers love.   He did not reject them because they did not live a perfect life.

  If you are going out spreading  the Word but are looking down on the people you are “helping”.  Just stop!!   No one is receiving  God’s love from you.  You actions are to make you feel good & you to build up yourself, that’s not God’s Word.   That’s you using God’s Word for your own purpose.

  Instead study how Jesus walked out His days going town to town.  He came to show God’s love & who His Father is.  Not to build followers.   Jesus did not go town to town looking for needy people to “help” so He would feel good about what He is doing or to feel good about Himself.   It was never about Him.   It was all about His Father & His Fathers love for each person in each town.  

  If you go out to build yourself up, your building your kingdom not God’s Kingdom.    If you are doing this & want to stop & need some help stopping the pattern, contact me.

Handshakes

  Yes, Handshakes.   I may be a female & some males might be thinking “What does she know about hand shakes?!”   I may not know everything about them, but what I do known is apart of the core of them.    I’m married, have sons, have brothers, a dad & uncles.     Plus my own two eyes to taken in & watch others around me.  







  This is what I have gathered over the years.  Females are not required to shake hands.  But males are.   A handshake speaks louder than words & it will be the first impression about who you are.  Lots of pressure with a simple handshake.  

  My husband has taught my sons about handshakes.   My youngest son makes it a point to shake peoples hand when he meets them & when he leaves.  My family was at wedding & they met new folks.  People have remarked on the firm handshake my youngest gives.   The same remark was given again.  But one guy asked my son, “How was his hand shake?”   My young son stopped, looked at him & leaned towards me & asked me, “What do I do, it was not good?”   I told him to give the truth.  So he did.   The guy also told my son, he can handle the truth.  This got me thinking, why are there firm handshakes & not so good ones.   

  Reasons for a firm handshake: confidence.  A person has confidence in themselves.    They were taught to give firm handshake.   Reasons for a not so good hand shake: lack of confidence in self,  lack of info on a firm handshake. Are  the dads not in the picture to teach & pass down information to their sons?   Men are the ones to truly teach on handshakes.  I’m not saying I know all on the subject.  I also know that handshakes have a fine line of a firm one & the squeeze & hurt the person.  The one that goes over the fine line of firm speaks about the person giving more than the one receiving. 

  I rejoice in the fact I don’t have to take part in handshakes.  I like having the options, to take part or not.  In different cultures things are done different,  I get that.  Not passing judgement on anyone about their cultures or handshakes.   I just want you to think about your self confidence level & what message you are putting out in front of you.  Is it one describing who you are?  

Journey vs Path

  Journey vs Path….  what is the difference between them?  They do sound like they would be the same thing.  Everyone has been on/going on/ is on a journey.   We all have been on/going on/ is on a path. 


   The difference between both is that one is wide open & the other is more structured.   How do you tell the difference  on which one you are on?  

  Journey is to see if you have the heart to do more than the bare minimum.   Journey is something you are on to see if you will make choices to go further.  A journey is a passage from place to another. 

   A path is marked out already,  a way that is formed by repeated footsteps.    A path has been traveled before by someone or by you, a track constructed for a use.  You still make choices, but you can see a pathway after your choice.    

   We all go down both during our lives.  Where are you now, journey or path?  If you need help with either one, contact me.

Flower vs Weed


  Flower vs Weed…. what are the difference that makes it one or the other?   Who decides what is what?  What is the purpose of a flower or a weed?   In the Bible it talks about flowers more than weeds. 

  A flower is seen as value, beauty,  enjoyment & is wanted.  A weed you see as useless, bothersome, a pain to get rid of  & not much value.    Do we view people the same way as a flower or a weed?  

  A flower & a weed has simpler life cycle: seed, growth, bloom & wither away to start all over.  Both have their own seasons.  Both have their own reason for growth. 

  In the Bible the flower is used more than a weed.  The flower is described as life, beauty, decorations in different structures on the Tabernacle.   A weed is described as just a plant, it is just there.   Do you want to be a flower or a weed?  

  A flower is the state of a bloom or flourishing, to develop & has value.   A weed is a plant that tends to overgrow or choke out more desirable plants.    How are you being a flower in the world?  Or are you a weed?  

  If you find yourself more like a weed & want to be more like a flower in the world, contact me.

TBI: After the Court Date

I’ll try not to depress anyone, I’m sharing the details that followed my husbands court date after he won his disability hearing.   To get even that point it took him over 3 years & numerous doctor appointments, test & paperwork.   The 3 years leading up to that point were no cake walk.  But we made it.


After going before the judge of SSD (Social Security Disability) & having him rule that my husband will receive  SSD & back pay for the 3 years he was unable to work.  We thought & felt relief that finally our lives will out of the waiting period & we can move forward & it is all be hind us.  We can now fully focus on what our future will look like.

It’s been over 6 months from the judges ruling.   Yes, he is receiving his monthly, but has not received his back pay.   Each time he calls the SSD office he gets  new excuse & run around answers & little information on what is going on.   He was even told that his money was going to be released to him a month ago & was not sure why it was not.  They sent a message to the office that deals with that & are waiting to hear back.  That means we wait more too!

Another month pasted, husband called again.   He received a line of excuses of why he did not have his back pay.   They now are saying there is 5 to 6 issues.  What are the issues was asked!!  More excuses were offered.  They were asked who is going to be held accountable for this, their reply was no one & he can contact his Congressman about it & the government is in a  shut down & to call them at the end of the month.

I went on the hunt for what it looks like to contact our Congressman about this.   What I found out was not comforting.  The Congressman would look into it & that is about it.  Does not mean that the Congressman would hold them accountable,  just that they will be looking into why the delay.  

After yet another call to SSD, to see if any answers would be had or the back pay would be released, we got more of the same nothing.  Then with more of a push they gave the number to the processing center.  The processing center is what is holding the money & the answers.   They would not even talk to my husband or I (his Representative) but only the to the lawyer that helped us on the case.  Ok, we called the lawyer.  The following week we had the back pay.  

Hope you take from this that never stop fighting!!  Yeah, it can be exhausting but worth it!!!

Clothes

How do you pick your clothes?  Is it a style, color, texture & print?   Or is it all of that?   Do you have tons of clothes & nothing to wear?   Do your clothes make you feel like on top of the world, full of energy?

 Or do your clothes do not line up with your personality & drag you down?   How can you line your personality & your clothes together?  

What color are you drawn to & you come a live in?   What style of clothes do you feel that you come alive in?  What do you dislike/feels like your energy just gets sucked out of you?  

Don’t just look at your clothes but your shoes/make-up/hair do & jewelry.   If you need help with getting to know who you are contact me.

Marriage, The Wife’s Part

Wives are you happy with your marriage?   Does it need to be improvements in area’s?  This is not about changing what the hubby is doing.   Just let that go.   Let’s look at what we are doing as wives & address that.    Let’s jump on in to some things to get us thinking what can we do different.  I hope the picture helps you relax as you jump in.

We will be looking at sowing & reaping.  To sow is to put in & to reap is was you get from after you have sown.  Very simple principle that can do great things.    You are doing the sowing & the reaping, not lets see what I can get my hubby to do different.   Ladies, leave the poor guy a lone.   He’s got guy stuff to do.  

Look at what you want to have done different, is it more date nights with your hubby, more quality time with him at home, more communication with him or do you feel your not on the same page as him & want to change that?   Whatever your goal is, let’s look at what you are doing now that is not getting the results that you want & stop doing them.   Let’s look on how you can sow better things to reap better fruit.  When we are applying the sowing & reaping principle, do not look for the fast change. Some times it might take a season or so to get the fruit.   Have patience with yourself & what you are doing.  

Let’s look at ourselves some more.  Are you taking care of you?  Eating healthy, exercises, getting out with the lady friends, building into the the family relationships outside of you & him & each other’s friends?  Remember the times of dating each other & talking about it!!  Drop old issues, holding on to past pain & rough times kills the future joy.  How many nice loving words have you said towards him in a day?  Holding hands much?  Are you showing him respect?  Have you said thank you to him today?   Stop picking out ever little thing he does that is making you crazy!!  Doing that is killing your relationship.  You would not like it if the shoe was on the other foot.  

If you would like more help with this, please contact me.  Blessings on your path for a stronger, healthier marriage!!

Do you feel lost in the woods when shopping for clothes for yourself?


I needed some more jeans so I went to the store to get some.  I thought very simple task, should have a couple pairs with in an hour or less.  NO! I was wrong!!!  Some of you are thinking, been there.  

After going to a few stores with no luck finding a pair that fit my body comfortably, I was really getting mad & flustered.  I went on the web to search out answers.   This is what I found, I measured my hips & waste & then went to Levi’s, Wranglers & a few other brand name companies sites.   From company to company the sizes for my measures went from 14 to 22,  that’s a difference between sizes.   I heard before different companies fit differently but this is getting out of hand.   Then we can add that the length comes in different lengths, that is not a big deal. 

With this new info, I went back to the stores armed with the new info.   I did have better luck shopping.  I did get some jeans, jeans that fit comfortably & looked good on me.   When I was trying on the different types & sizes of jeans, I found this out too!!  Not all same name brand sizes fit the same.   I had the same size from the same company, but they changed the size fitting with in themselves.   Very confusing right!!!   Let me try to clear up the confusion,  I gabbed 3 pairs of size 14 from the same name brand,  2 pair I had not problem putting on, one pair I could not even get the top of the waste line button closer to meet.  It was a good 2 inches away!!!   This confirms it, nothing wrong or odd about my body.   It is the companies that are making the clothes for us women.

Women have enough to deal with in our lives, we really don’t need to become a master of this puzzling game of clothes.  Clothes shopping should be fun & relaxing!!!  To all the women out there trying to find the right fitting jeans or any form of clothes, you are not alone!!  It’s not you but the clothes companies not being consistent. 

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